They say marriages are made in heaven. A relation , an institution as sacred, pious as marriage just doesnt need adjustments and compromises. It needs everything that the world can or cant imagine. It needs commitment, trust, compatibilty, a spouse who can be your best friend, with whom one can grow as a person, and just live. People fall in love and say "he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with","she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with." That is something that amazes me. Call me an emotional fool or old fashioned or whatever that you may please, but life is not meant to be just spent. It is meant to be "lived" with the person you love. People fall in love, take vows of a lifetime, until death do us apart. Then why is it that they themselves kill the love? Is that what they mean when they look into each other's eyes and vow 'until death do us apart'? death of love? Is it so easy to fall in and out of love?? One fine day, they tell their spouse that they have found love in the arms of someone else.....someone more beutiful/handsome, more fun loving, more ambitious, someone who doesnt compromise his/hers dreams to see them happy or progress, someone who has not seen the tough times with them, as their spouse has, someone who has just brought fun and excitement and unpredictabilty in their lives. What about all those moments, when the spouse sacrificed his/her happiness willingly to bring a smile , see their better half grow and progress and feel content with the happiness of their spouse, not once bothering about themselves, their dreams??????? And who should be hanged for the death of love ?
Wel I won’t cal you an emotional fool/old fashioned – bt ya I have found deep criticism & heavy remarks on love, affection, relationship & ofcourse marriage. Some cruel yet painful question/disagreement that you might still trying to get an answer (if I am not wrong)
ReplyDeleteThose whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder. – such thing/words/belief doesn’t matter, you don’t need a ‘tag’ either to be together or share ‘love’.
I’ll tel you what – my personal ideology is like love does not seek a promise of affection, but a vow of loyalty. It’s like an unconditional, lifelong and extraordinarily ambitious….. The marriage contract is unlike most contracts(usual ones), the provisions are unwritten, its penalties are unspecified, and…and the terms of the contract are typically unknown to the contracting parties…no one would like to sign it if they had read it first – but we do and continue to do so, and same applies to so called ‘love’ we ppl fly into - that’s all.
Somehow (personally) I feel you are still prolonging your past, still trying to recover from it or… trying to bombard/kick it!